Wow! May is almost over – it’s going to be June soon. You know, May has been a little too… well, spring-like. I’m sure that June is going to do everything better.
That sounds completely absurd. Yet, that’s a comparison of May to June and not so very different from what we do when we compare ourselves to others. The two months are different times of the year and each have their own unique characteristics so comparing them is fruitless.
Comparison – Don’t Waste Your Energy
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and that’s true but I think it’s worse than a thief just taking something away. Comparing yourself and your work to others actually introduces negativity and self defeating ideas.
If you look up comparison in the dictionary, you’ll find something along the lines of “the act of comparing” which is both circular and unhelpful. What’s more interesting is the actual experience of comparison – which often results in one of the things compared being found less than or wanting in some way.
How about some examples:
I’m scrolling the feed in the Art Journaling for Beginners Group and see a gorgeous page (or several in a row!) and the thought forms, “That’s not from a beginner…” Boom – comparison gained a foothold!
Or, I’m clicking around You Tube from one art journal process video to the next and think “I could never do this…” Yep – there it is again!
The list of ways comparison sneaks into our thinking is long and varied but its hallmark is often negativity about ourselves. And, that’s how comparison worms its way into your living room and brings its negative friends for a house party. Just shut the front door!